Wednesday, May 25, 2011

Things see so black at the moment

Why is it when you think things are nerly sorted
somthing has to come along and upset the apple cart

I had aranged the house move for friday the 10th of june
I am funding the perchace of my new home from my dovorce
and the money from the house we both owned out right
the money iam getting is far less then 50% and iam not taking much out of the house as the Kids still live there
But it will pay for the the new house  so i will not have a morgage
we have delt with the finacal setalment and she has to let me have the money by the 7th of june
tonight she says you will have to move out on the 7th and will not budge
so if i can not rearange the move to monday the 6th it looks like i am going to be home less  for 3 days
the seperasion has been like this all the way throw  6 months off compleet hell
this will mean i will have to take time off work and iam self employed so i will loss a lot off money
aswell she is just making every thing as difficult as posiblem just to spite me :-(

5 comments:

Becca said...

I presume that you could be equally as hard and refuse to move earlier but sometimes it easier to take the line of least resistance.

Things may be black but don't give up hope

Becca

Nikki T said...

No becouse she is bying me out of the family home its a legal trasaction and she is taking vacant prosesion to mean just that
Rather than being sencible and amicable
It dose not bode well for future relations ( and she bleams me for all the bad feeling between us when all the way throw all i have done is bentover backwords to do what she wants all iam asking is to stay in the house 3 days longer to make moving easyer )
Sorry iam using this a a place to vent at the moment
thanks for showing an interest im not normaly this down
I am normaly the one lissaning to others and trying to help.
This is just not like me at all
As you say its only 2 weeks and then i can start to rebuild my life and £1000 losed now is a drop in the ocsion in a life time

Becca said...

I can understand the hurt feelings but what astonishes me sometimes is how vindictive some people can be. You are being made to pay in so many ways and there is little Christian charity on show. Sounds to me that your guilt (?) has driven you to give as much as possible and yet more is wanted. Must be very hard for you.

Don't apologise - we all have our moments. I cry frequently for the pains I feel and my situation is nothing like as hard as yours.

Becca

Nikki T said...

Thanks Becca
it is hard as you say i have done every thing i can and still more is wanted.
For a cristian there is a lot off bigatry and righchus indignation about her and a total lack of compasion I do not fit into her perfect littel world so i am to be scorned tht is why she is makeing access to the kids so hard but she will not admit it she thinks she can just go on as normal just with out me there i think there is a deck of cards that is about to fall all i can do is get my self set up in my own place and be there if the kids need me the rest will take care of its self i may need some where to store my thinge for a few days and a place to sleep but i have friends that have already offered some where to sleep i just need to fine some one with a garage that i can store things in for a few days last night i was just upset and trying to figer out how this would effect me it never rains it just pours
my problems will soon be over and i will have my own place things will be tight for a while
untill I rebuild but i will have the space to be my self and that takes away the GD feelings and makes every thing else esaya to cope with and i can push to get on track to go full time as i now that is where i will be before the end of the year as the only reason to not do that was the ex and that nolonger aplies she will be in for another shock when she findes that out and will try to push the kids away from me even further as she only thinks i dress at the moment as she has never been perpared to talk about it and has rushed throw the dovrice in 6 munths siting the xdressing as the reason and would not go to counceling even thow i tryed to get her to go with me
i now partners have to play catch up its esaer for us we have had a life time of nowing who and what we are.
its not all her fault iam past guilt now Iam proud of who iam i have been throw hell to get to no who iam and i like me but i still care for others and dont like upsetting people

Becca said...

Life as a contractor ! Its fine taking days off until you do your invoice !

I was reading the an online newspaper this week about relationship break-ups. Whilst the circumstances were entirely different the advice made an impression on me. It was saying that there was no point getting into rows and exacting 'revenge' (in whatever form) the best thing for you is to move your life in a way to make yourself happy. Its sounds like the plan is already in your mind to do just that and I am hopeful that when your children see how happy you are whatever your wife says to them will fall on deaf ears.

Becca